You get one shot to make New Year's Eve (NYE) awesome. You take time to plan your night in advance. You're with the best people doing something that everyone agrees will be great. Everyone outside are happy and it's all in the name of time - the 10 seconds when you're counting down to the new year that seem to last longer than just about any other 10 seconds you'll have. Here are three aspects of NYE you should try to work into your everyday routine.
- Always be with the best people - This seems obvious, but it's not always easy to practice. Sometimes you'll be drawn to people who you think have all the answers. They never do. Great minds typically have equally great flaws to balance them out. Einstein was an emotional failure. John Lennon was violent early in his career. Michael Jackson - Martha Stewart - Bill Cosby... On the surface, all of these people had their act together, but over time, you'd find that each has their skeletons. Nobody is perfect, and I'm not saying that you should lock yourself indoors and only hang out with your mother. That's a terrible idea. You SHOULD go out and try new things. Meet new people. Get a little weird. But don't blow off your nephew's birthday party just to hang out with that cool guy who's constantly saying things like "reality is an awakening of supra-unified consciousness". That guy's probably a Scientologist who wants to harvest your blood. Instead, focus on the people who love you and make you the happiest. Even if it's your stupid brother who get's drunk and tries to play the guitar in front of everyone, but just ends up embarrassing the entire family. You're just as stupid in your own way. Besides, your brother cares about you more than blood-harvest guy ever will.
- Acknowledge that everything could go wrong - The greatest thing about NYE is that it's an elusive beast. There are a million awesome options for your evening, and only a few hours to party. If you plan on doing 5 different things, you'll spread yourself too thin and feel like you got nothing accomplished. If you try to write emails while brushing your teeth, it's going to take 5 times longer than if you just did each task individually. Focus on doing one thing well, then move on to the next. You can't get anything done if you're living in constant FOMO, but you can be ok with failure. Treat everyday like there is only one major thing you have to do. If things don't work out perfectly, you'll get to try again tomorrow. As far as NYE goes, put all your chips down on the one event that you think is going to be the best. Bet your night on that concert, that party, or the dinner, and let the other options dissolve in the champagne. “One who makes no mistakes makes nothing at all.” – Giacomo Casanova
- Focus on the small stuff - When you've chosen what to do, and you're with the right people, it's pretty easy. Pay close attention to the good, bad and ugly situations you come across. There's a little wisdom in each. Take in what works, and discard the rest. If you can do well at this, then there is nothing that can stop you from dominating your goals and succeeding in whatever it is that you want - without losing your head and stressing out.
Have a happy new year, and relax with purpose.
-Ryan and the TIME Team